I remember when I was in my early twenties that I would sometimes mentally count up the number of sexual partners or experiences that I’d had. The number was very small and manageable.

That rapidly changed, however, as I got over my self loathing and fear of homosexuality.

Today, I wouldn’t even attempt such a count, because I know I could not possibly remember every sexual partner I’ve ever had.

But I don’t feel shame about that, even though I know some people find it shameful. We live in such a sex-negative society that just speaking about having had triple digit sexual partners, which is definitely the case for me, can make a person the subject of negative gossip and consequences.

This really needs to change.