I hear you.
Of course, I’m writing from the perspective of an outsider.
It seems to me that the Catholic Catechism, which directs hate speech and fosters real hatred against LGBTQ people, is a document that is doing incredible harm, including fostering actual violence.
Parallels exist in the Evangelical world, though not in such focused examples.
I don’t fantasize that just making public hate speech unacceptable would end hatred.
Naturally, people who cling to those belief systems will continue to do so.
Think of the tremendous good, though, to be accomplished by the diminishing of the acceptable teaching of hate.
If Catholics everywhere withheld financial support from the Church until the Church removed the labels of “depraved,” “disordered,” and “great moral evil” from the Catechism and from letters of pastoral instruction, then just imagine the result.
Far, far fewer children would grow up being routinely indoctinated in bigotry.
I use the Catholic Church as an example, because according to polls, most Catholics in the United States and Europe already disagree with the Church’s position.
It’s up to those Catholics to force a change for the good.
As to evangelicals, the road is harder. But if they felt intense social shame with respect to homophobia and if homophobia were truly socially unacceptable, then they would necessarily have less opportunity to spread it the way they’re doing now.
That would be wonderful. No question.
Would it be a panacea?
Of course not.
But I can’t speak to theology and religious teaching. I’m not even a Christian.
There are many tactics necessary in movements for change.
I’ll have to leave the religious and theological tactics to those (like you) who are qualified and have the understanding to use them.