I have “types.” We all do. Blond men turn me on visually more than some other men, for example. It’s an instinctive reaction I have little control over.

Sexuality experts theorize with some fairly convincing evidence that these sorts of types are caused by an impression or imprinting process early in our childhoods.

But the thing is, I have fallen in love with men who are not blond. In fact, neither of the two men I enjoyed long-term relationships with was blond.

Having a type is real. Human behavior experts realize that types are something that exists within our neural circuitry. But types don’t rule us. Falling in love and developing attraction and desire with a real human being is a much more profound process than that instant buzz of electricity that invades us when we look at a person.

How much poorer I would have been in my life if I had not opened myself up to the possibility of love outside limits!