I guess it’s understandable that some people can be confused by gender non-conformity, but when the confusion rises to the level of hostility or opposition, I think we need to step back and examine what we’re doing more closely.

It’s hardly shocking that a trans man might want to wear his hair long and dress in glittery things. Plenty of cis men do exactly the same thing. Many of them are my friends. ;-)

Seriously, as a gay man, Ive often been surrounded by cis men who reveled in certain feminine mannerisms or modes of dress. For lots of different, personal reasons.

Why should a trans man be any different? More importantly perhaps, why should anyone try to force them to be?

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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