I didn’t choose anything. A person who calls himself a liberal, progressive, affirming Christian chose to take time out of his day to make sure I know he considers I am or might be morally deficient. I get to have feelings. I get to experience the contempt of his statement as pain. I am not a robot, I am a gay man who has all my life been subjected to this sort of vicious treatment from people who hold themselves up as moral paragons.

Look, if this had been some Baptist or other conservative monster like a Pentecostal, I would have just whistled in disgust and moved on. But when your “friends” treat you with moral contempt and seem proud of themselves, like they’re doing you a favor for tolerating you, that’s worth comment.