Hyper-masculinity and it’s step-cousin, toxic masculinity, can be such big problems in so many different spaces.

It’s discouraging to me as a gay white man to see so many of my gay white counterparts indulging in misogyny and hyper-masculinity.

Growing up in a working-class world, I experienced enormous pressure to conform to hyper standards of masculinity.

Living in Detroit for many years, most of my friends being gay black men, I got to see some of the pressure they deal with. It’s rough!

We’re supposed to be getting better. Our world is supposed to be evolving. But, oh, how slowly.

Thank you for your voice.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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