Hi Allie Long,

As a gay man who was raised as an evangelical Christian, I found myself nodding along as I read about your experiences.

While there are significant differences between our experiences, there are so many similarities. Personally, even after I gave up the habits of faith, it took me a very long time to get over the ingrained thought patterns and reactions. It took years for burnt-in neural circuits to rewire, as it were.

In some ways I resent the way the church stole my adolescence from me, stole a sense of healthy, wholesome sexuality.

In other ways, I’d just so profoundly grateful that I eventually escaped the toxity.

Thanks for telling your story.


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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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