Here you are neither transgender nor particularly familiar with LGBTQ people, but you presume to preach about how people who walking entirely different shoes from you should present their gender.
You know what you need to do?
You need to be quiet. Seriously, you need to shut up. You need to talk to transgender people. You need to read what transgender academics have been writing for decades about presenting gender in public.
You need to absorb that information and learn from people who are different from you.
Then you can preach at us. Until then, shut your mouth. You have no idea what you’re talking about.
Show some respect.