Hear hear! Very well said.
It took me a few years longer than you to make the decision to live fully out — to embrace my queerness as an essential, defining part of me.
Where you needed to go to graduate school to find a nurturing environment, I have to leave a budding career in the military and move to New York City.
Living in a place where gay was ordinary changed me in very profound ways. I wonder what I would have become if I had stayed in a conservative environment.
I’m glad I never had to find out.