Having raised a teenage boy myself and being familiar with the sometimes-despair of the teenage brain, I feel this story deep in my heart.
As a gay man who has tried consciously (with varying degrees of success) to throw off chains of patriarchy, I think your conclusion is so important. Racism, sexism, and patriarchy hurt white men profoundly, even when they believe they’re the beneficiaries.
What a scary, lonely place to live.
Thank you for writing this.