Great story! Thanks for so vividly sharing your experiences.

I’m curious about something. My ex is a white Australian man a bit older than you. His parents gave him a really hard time when he came out. When he moved to Canada and moved in with me, they took away the higher-education money they’d been saving for him since before his birth.

His mother donated it to charity (or so she said) with the stipulation that it be used for the education of a “non-Asian, non-aboriginal Australian.”

My boyfriend told me that her anti-Asian attitude was common among conservative Australians, and that people who are bigoted against queer folks are usually racists too.

Do you find that you experience intersecting discrimination issues with being queer and of Asian heritage? You seem to enjoy your Air Force experiences, so I’m wondering if you find (as I did when I was a US Air Force officer) that conservative attitudes can be over-represented in the military?

I know my questions are tangential to the point of your story, and I do apologize that I’m off the track of what you’re writing about, which I appreciate and which I enjoyed reading very much.



Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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