Gay men slut shame each other too, and it’s all so tiring. When you start knocking on 60’s door like I am, you (hopefully) gain a little perspective and start to understand that sex and intimacy are blessings, part of the joy of being human — and that they don’t necessarily last.

Youth and vibrant sexuality should be celebrated. Enjoyed. Not shamed.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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