Excellent advice! It could translate well into the world of gay male dating too. You really don't have to play the role of a hyper-fashionable, witty "Instagay" to attract guys you'd match well with. If you pretend to be somebody you're not, you might well end up stuck with somebody you don't like.

Both of the two loves of my life were people who enjoyed the autistic parts of my personality– the info dumping, the urge to obsessively learn about new things, the need for lots of quiet evenings at home without media blaring in my ears.

If I'd pretended to be somebody I wasn't, I suspect I could very well have ended up sharing my life with partners who expected me to live in ways that would have made me miserable.