Emma, how does this even happen? I’m a man of almost 60. I’m maybe a little “cute” if you stretch the definition, but I’m not a romantic hunk. hahah! And that’s an understatement.

I write about sex, though, often. And men will take that as a signal that can email me or instant message me with instant proposals of hot sex and more. Rather than, “Hello, your writing is interesting. Can we talk?” I get, “Here’s a dick pic and my stats. Where do you live? When can we get together?”

I mean, please, Blanche. Is this for real? You don’t even know me.


Just to give you the gay perspective. :-)

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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