Dude, as much as you might be trying to misdirect how this all started, you began with presumption that you have a right to permit your wife, daughter, niece, etc, to make their own decisions and take part in the activities of their own choosing.

That's heinous.

Nothing you say can weasel out of that.

You as a man presume the right to control female members of your family. And let's not present that your wife is a minor.

I heard you loud and clear, and I recognize you as a horrible human being.