Don’t talk them out of leaving the Church. Please! And you leave too, at least temporarily. Otherwise, you’re enabling and being complicit with the bigots and the haters. Hold the Church’s feet to the fire. Tell them that as a moral, decent, loving human being, you t refuse to give them one more dime until they retract their evil, regressive new policies.
You’d never countenance racism, would you? Why would you tolerate homophobic bigotry? Gay people in the Church are angry? Why not EVERY person in the Church? Why aren’t you angry?
This is intolerable horror. So don’t talk to me about spiritual journeys and accepting bigotry. Show me that good Christians reject evil. Do something. Fight!