James Finn
1 min readApr 11, 2019

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Do you find it true, traceybyfire, that a DESIRE to perform oral sex can be a valuable metric for real attraction?

I feel that way sometimes, I think.

If I really WANT to do down, I’m know I’m genuinely turned on and not just pretending to myself or being attracted the idea of attraction.

Exceptions apply, obviously. We humans are complicated critters. But the metric has become a bit of a rule of thumb for me.

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James Finn

James Finn is an LGBTQ columnist, a former Air Force intelligence analyst, an alumnus of Act Up NY, and an agented but unpublished novelist.