Deon, I used to feel exactly the same way about my family, about disappointing them.

And it was hard.

I’m not gonna lie and say that I came out and then everything was magically OK again in a short while.

It was hard.

But you know what?

If I hadn’t done it, I’d have never lived and loved the way I have. I’d have never met the love of my life.

I’d have never raised a great kid who needed a parent and needed me exactly for who I was.

It’s been a lot better being me than pretending to be somebody else and being miserable.

So my family had a rough time. I had a rough time because of them.

We all got over it, though. We really did. I’m close with some of my biological family now.

With others I’m not. I have people in my life who might as well be family even with no blood relationship.

And it’s all OK. We’re all OK.

It seems impossibly hard at first, I know. You can do it, though.

Once the hard part is done, where else do you have to go but up?

Good luck, man!

Jim

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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