James Finn
2 min readAug 15, 2023

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Dayum! You knocked that one out of the park!

I relate so much to your section about abstinence and sex ed. First, I know you're telling the truth, because I lived it too. My own dad preached from the pulpit about the evils of sex education. Did I get any at home? Hell, no. His face turned red and he stuttered and stammered when he tried to talk about sex. I had no idea what he was trying to tell me.

Fortunately (I guess?), I ended up gay so I didn't need most of what he was trying but failing to teach. (The first time I ejaculated, I was scared out of my mind because I had no conception of what had just happened. I was utterly ignorant — ignorance imposed by religious nut jobs.)

Then, a bit later in life, I ran into the same abstinence-only education bull when I did safer-sex education street theater for Act Up during the height of the AIDS crisis. We risked arrest to get empowering information into the hands of at-risk people who desperately needed it.

We risked arrest (and sometimes were actually arrested) because religious nut jobs couldn't accept the FACT that abstinence-only sex ed doesn't do squat for people. And this was while people were dying in shocking, despair-inducing numbers.

But you know, those same religious nut jobs didn't care about that. Each time one of us died, it was just one less "fa**ot" to ruin their perfect little Christian world —that existed only in their haughty, judgmental imaginations.

Only when their own children started to die could they even try to re-think their positions. And even then, only sometimes.

The Catholic Church in many parts of Africa —even today, even as AIDS rages on out of control in most of the continent—fights to stop meaningful sex ed and condom distribution. Religious nut jobs, as usual, struggle to find their humanity and act like decent, loving people.

So, while some Christian men like the ones you parody in his article will undoubtedly eventually change their minds, I don't expect that most of them will.

The rest of us have to fight them as hard as we can, with women leading the way.

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James Finn
James Finn

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James Finn is an LGBTQ columnist, a former Air Force intelligence analyst, an alumnus of Act Up NY, and an agented but unpublished novelist.

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