But of course your experience is what we’re working for. Being able to grow up queer without pain or trauma is the end game of activism and advocacy.

Maybe hearing your story is important because it can show some of us what’s possible, what’s in fact already happening.

That’s not to say other stories aren’t important too, but all our voices matter.

The way you write about it matters too. You aren’t generalizing your experiences the way James Kirchick did in the Atlantic last June when he claimed the fight for “gay rights” is over.

I think there’s value in examining the lives of queer folks who don’t struggle. If we don’t know what that’s like, how can we figure out how to get there?