Being a gay stereotype. I think some people used to call that being “in the life.” Maybe they still do sometimes.

I think for some people it’s healthy, but often it’s not.

Some people today speak of delayed-onset adolescence. Denied a healthy adolescence, we go through another one when we come out.

I sometimes write about the trauma of the closet, about how we internalize habits of deception and repression that make healthy intimacy difficult without a period of healing.

However we might frame the issue, Sam McKenzie Jr., your story echoed with me. I recognized much in it!



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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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