Be careful what you wish for. A lot of gay men immersed in the Grindr/hook-up scene bemoan the fact that for them it seems sex and love are always separate, and that love is elusive if not impossible to find.

I hear what you were saying, of course. It’s just your opening struck me as interesting, because every gay man who goes on Grindr pretty much is announcing the expectation of sex without emotional connection.

It’s interesting though that men don’t usually feel bad about that. We typically have not been conditioned to feel like “sluts" if we want to indulge in an hour-long hook up with a stranger.

The other side of the coin, of course, is that we can then suffer from I diminished ability to form healthy emotional connections.

It’s all in the balance, I suppose.