Anna, I also raised a boy who wasn’t my son, and he always called me Jim and never dad.

But it was perhaps the most profound and important experience of my life. Only years after he’d grown up and built a life did I know that he felt the same way.


Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.