And of course, people who are part of marginalized groups at whom hatred is systematically directed are very unlikely to feel sweetness and light about those doing the directing.

Are the families of Black men murdered by racist cops expected not to feel anger and hatred? That seems more than just a little unreasonable. (Anger being a separate issue deserving its own treatment. But still.)

When I was in Act Up in the 90s and we were demonstrating outside the homes of pharmaceutical executives who refused to negotiate to make life-saving drugs affordable or available to our dying friends, did we feel hatred toward those executives? We would not have been human if we did not, I think.

Our despair fueled both hatred and anger, and led us to take effective direct action to protest and shame the executives, who ultimately changed their behavior, which saved our friends lives, and countless other lives.

I could cite many other examples, starting with conservatives today who are inspiring waves of violence against LGBTQ people and who aren't going to to stop because people are nice to them.

It takes strong emotion to motivate action for effective change.