And let's not forget that of those 15% of men who file workplace sexual harassment complaints, a significant percentage of them were harassed by other men at work, not by women.

Making a small number even smaller is not necessary for the point you made so powerfully, but it's probably worth mentioning.

Personally, over a long lifetime of work at some very big companies and small ones too, I practically never encountered women sexually harassing men. I did see, on the other hand, men being inappropriately sexually presumptuous with other men. I'm speaking of gay or bisexual men, of course, but it's interesting how the same dynamic plays out, how powerful men sometimes feel they have the right to flirt with, make passes at, or ask out men who may feel like their careers would be hurt if they didn't cooperate.

I don't think in the cases I saw the men were being intentionally villainous. That kind of behavior is such an ingrained part of the culture that people often haven't fully appreciated the negative impact.

I think that's less and less true now, though. I think consciousnesses have been raised quite appropriately. And people are doing better or at least understand that they need to do better.

And I think the guy who wrote you is making excuses. I'm glad you answered him the way you did.