And contrary to what a sizable minority of the gay-male community seems to think, gay men are often not cool with unsolicited dick pics either.

I mean, I’m not going to pretend that gay guys don’t advance past go and collect $200 on a pretty rapid pace sometimes, but on the other hand …

I have a lot of gay friends, spanning generations, who think unsolicited intimate photos are a turn off. I mean, is it that hard to ask first?

If your potential date likes you, he’ll probably say, yes, go ahead. And he won’t get the niggling idea that you might have boundary issues.

When somebody sends me an unsolicited penis picture after talking to me for less than 10 minutes, I can’t help but wonder what other inappropriate things they might do sometimes.

I know other people may feel differently about this, and I guess maybe it’s just a pet peeve of mine, but it seems to me that asking permission about intimacy is a good move. (Unless you’re clearly in an environment where that permission has been granted a priori.)