Amen, my brother.

I am neither religious nor monogamous, but both of those choices are freely made by me. In a metaphoric way, I consider those choices to be my sacred right to make.

I know plenty of gay men who value monogamy and religious faith. And those choices are theirs and no one else’s.

I’m old enough to have participated in the early queer movement as a member of Queer Nation. And I can tell you for sure that we never envisioned this kind of ideological lifestyle purity that one encounters now from time to time in progressive queer circles.

And while this a problem for queer immigrants like you, native-born LGBT people in the United States can experience the same difficulty.

This needs to stop. If we are serious about honoring diversity, then we need to mean it — and that includes meaning it about people who choose monogamy and faith.