And then my own pet peeve: I get really uncomfortable when people use female instead of woman.

To me it sounds clinical, dehumanizing.

“I went out out with this hot female last night.”

Oh, did you? To you she’s just a female? She reduces to her sex? Or she’s not enough of a three-dimensional person for you to call her a woman?

I understand language changes and all that, but when a person says female when they mean woman, it’s like fingernails on chalkboard in my ears.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.