James Finn
1 min readMay 20, 2020

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Amen, brother!

I’m a gay man who has gone through entire relationships without ever having anal sex, because my partner just wasn’t into it.

Other partners of mine have been very much into it. Their choice, their call.

What makes me gay is that when I look at a hot guy, I feel a deep rev of sexual vibration and response.

When I look at a woman straight guys find hot, I don’t feel anything.

I knew I was gay for many, many years before I ever had anal sex. The first time I had anal sex, I hated it and didn’t do it again for many many more years.

But I was gay the whole time.

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James Finn
James Finn

Written by James Finn

James Finn is an LGBTQ columnist, a former Air Force intelligence analyst, an alumnus of Act Up NY, and an agented but unpublished novelist.

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