Amen, brother!

I’m a gay man who has gone through entire relationships without ever having anal sex, because my partner just wasn’t into it.

Other partners of mine have been very much into it. Their choice, their call.

What makes me gay is that when I look at a hot guy, I feel a deep rev of sexual vibration and response.

When I look at a woman straight guys find hot, I don’t feel anything.

I knew I was gay for many, many years before I ever had anal sex. The first time I had anal sex, I hated it and didn’t do it again for many many more years.

But I was gay the whole time.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.