Also, you don't always have to have a big formal sit-down to talk to teens. When my partner and I used to worry that our teenager was internalizing inappropriate messages about sexuality and sexual behavior, we definitely talked to him about it. But we did more than that.

We talked to each other when he was listening. Casually. Day to day. In a no-big-deal way.

We talked about consent. (Ugh, that guy at the park kept putting his hands on me. Made me feel creepy even though he's totally hot.)

We talked about valuing women as equal human beings. (People at [name of client we worked for sometimes] say horrible things about Lucy because she's a very attractive woman who happens to be the boss. They act like a sexy woman doesn't deserve respect. It's so gross.)

We even talked about how healthy sexual relationships work. (I'm glad you appreciated how tired I was last night. I'm sorry we weren't on the same wavelength. But you know I love you and I can't wait until we're both in the same mood.)

We talked about porn for sure. That part was easy, because my partner was offered a gig making porn. He turned it down even though we could have used the money, which gave us a good chance to talk about why we didn't like that company's product — how it was unrealistic and fed into harmful ideas about sex.

Our teenager, like most, didn't like discussing sexuality with parents. But that didn't mean we couldn't impart our values.