Ah, but that’s the very point of my comment, Joseph Curto. My personal risk limit, so long as I’m transparent about it, cannot put my partner at risk. My partner accepts his own risks and is in charge of his own precautions.

I may, for example, decide that I am comfortable with PrEP alone and no condoms. He may not agree. In that case, it’s up to him not to have sex with me without condoms.


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