Absolutely. You know. queer activists and thought leaders were not initially much on board with legalized same-sex marriage when people first began to discuss it as a real possibility in the late 1990s when AIDS began to come under control thanks to the effective combination therapies. I'll never forget a 1,000 dollar a plate fundraiser my business partners paid for me to attend in support of the Hawaii initiative. I was perplexed. "Gay marriage?" I thought to myself. "But we can do so much better than that hoary old institution!"

That's not to say I oppose legalized same-sex marriage. I support it as a matter of fundamental civil rights. But that doesn't mean we can't still do better. Nothing says we have to settle for the institution and leave it the same way we found it.